The quote "your career will never wake up and leave you" is a phrase I often hear from hyper-independent boss-babe women. However, for some of these women there is a deep loneliness and yearning to have a supportive team in your home too (some not all). If you resonate with this loneliness as a boss babe, continue reading.
As humans it is in our biological nature to desire partnership and connection with other humans. When did it become so common for women to rely on their careers to make them happy? When did the masculine overtake the feminine in women? Well this is the byproduct after witnessing generations of women rely on the masculine for help and support yet were consistently disappointed, controlled or hurt. In response, the hyper-independent boss-babe was born. However, this does not change the fact that more women are lonely and/or sacrificing deep romantic connections out of fear of being hurt or disappointed.
Reasons why the hyper-independent boss-babe is perpetuating singlehood in women is due to:
Lack of time to invest in love life
Hyper-masculinity
The "I do not need anyone" mindset
LACK OF TIME TO INVEST IN LOVE LIFE:
The hyper-independent boss-babe typically lacks healthy boundaries with her work and does not have a healthy work-life balance overall. Before diving into dating or investing into your love life, ask yourself if you even take time out to invest in connection with yourself. You will not be able to connect deeply in the dating world if you can only talk about your work due to lack of effort to connect with yourself. Who are you outside of your career? Dig deep...remember you are a human being not a human doing.
HYPERMASCULINITY:
Hyper-independent boss-babe women have forgotten how to fully embrace their feminine energy. No, I am not talking about gender - I am talking about energy. Feminine energy is a beautiful state of flow and receiving goddess-like energy. The issue is when you are a hyper- independent boss-babe you forget what it's like to receive from anyone. Therefore, you may find yourself attracting men who are subservient, people pleasers or unmotivated - making you the sole giver and provider in the relationship. This could also be another reason why you do not invest your time in love and relationships. However, when a woman can master channeling her divine feminine and having a more balanced masculine energy, she can truly have it all just from her gaze alone.
"I DO NOT NEED ANYONE" MINDSET:
Who made you feel so unsafe or disappointed that you lost trust in those you thought would take care of you? The "I do not need anyone" mindset is purely a reaction to protect yourself due to hurt and distrust. You are fully operating from the wounded self rather than your healed self. This continuously reinforces the wounded self by closing yourself off from love, connection and vulnerability. Healing the wounded self will finally help you allow someone to nurture you the way you nurture yourself and it can be beautiful. Having to "do life" alone can feel tough and isolating, so you may find yourself reading blogs like this - which could mean you are now open and curious to healing the distrusting wounded self.
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